Tuesday, August 23, 2005

family news for the day

archives and comments are working again. this time it was in apache.conf. allowoverride all for the vhost. yippee.

sue went out selling the table tents again today. (have i talked about those? i should create a category, because they're consuming a large part of my day now.) she had a hard day; she got lost (no surprise) and the one place she had an appointment, the guy was pretty nasty to her and had her out within about five minutes. oh well. my dad has tried to impart the four-s-w rule of sales: some will; some won't; so what; someone's waiting.

Monday, August 22, 2005

of course

something had to go wrong. i claimed i'd fixed the comment and archive problem, and i had.

or at least i fixed what i did wrong last time.

but it didn't stay fixed. so off to the drawing board again tonight.

Friday, August 19, 2005


the move (again) to (another) new server is complete and this time i've managed to remember to fix the comments and archives so you can access all that stuff now.

the new server is fast. the spam volume is way down. and it's mine! i love it.

Wednesday, August 17, 2005

surgery (mark ii)

my boss has given me permission to do my foot surgery at the end of september. so it's scheduled for september 22.


Sunday, August 14, 2005


work. does. not. suck.

the place is so fucking cold you could hang meat in the place, but on the whole i've worked in worse places. here, for example. the nicest part about it, besides the pretty cool and laid back people, is that while i do technical support, it's all done through the ticketing system. nobody calls us. ever. no incoming phone calls. i'm so fucking thrilled.

i made my first sale with the table tent thing. and i bought the domain here although the link won't resolve for a few days yet, and when it does it won't work for a few days more. the sale is for 22 tables for 13 weeks. about average, and not enough money to make a go of it, but 10 more like that, or 20 or 50 more, and life will be good.

i spent last week running around doing business-related shit. like getting a sales tax number. and a bank account. and a dba. but that's all done now, thankfully. the only thing left to do is get out and make more sales.

ian starts school on tuesday. i got him enrolled last week, and had to chase around for shot records, birth certificates and social security cards, and of course they wanted a water bill to prove residence. so i got them a water bill.

sue is happy(er) with me again. she's getting frustrated because of the logistics of having the kids and getting ian to school, while trying to deal with getting a job or working for the business. what we really need is some hourly childcare, but we haven't found anybody around here who does drop-in service. we don't want to go out and do sales calls every day, and so can't justify setting up (and can't pay for) full-time care yet. so we don't know how it's going to work yet. or if it will work.

Wednesday, August 10, 2005

from foxesdaughter

from maire, who got it from from here.

I am the girl kicked out of her home because I confided in my mother that I am a lesbian.

I am the prostitute working the streets because nobody will hire a transsexual woman.

I am the sister who holds her gay brother tight through the painful, tear-filled nights.

We are the parents who buried our daughter long before her time.

I am the man who died alone in the hospital because they would not let my partner of twenty-seven years into the room.

I am the foster child who wakes up with nightmares of being taken away from the two fathers who are the only loving family I have ever had. I wish they could adopt me.

I am one of the lucky ones, I guess. I survived the attack that left me in a coma for three weeks, and in another year I will probably be able to walk again.

I am not one of the lucky ones. I killed myself just weeks before graduating high school. It was simply too much to bear.

We are the couple who had the realtor hang up on us when she found out we wanted to rent a one-bedroom for two men.

I am the person who never knows which bathroom I should use if I want to avoid getting the management called on me.

I am the mother who is not allowed to even visit the children I bore, nursed, and raised. The court says I am an unfit mother because I now live with another woman.

I am the domestic-violence survivor who found the support system grow suddenly cold and distant when they found out my abusive partner is also a woman.

I am the domestic-violence survivor who has no support system to turn to because I am male.

I am the father who has never hugged his son because I grew up afraid to show affection to other men.

I am the home-economics teacher who always wanted to teach gym until someone told me that only lesbians do that.

I am the man who died when the paramedics stopped treating me as soon as they realized I was transsexual.

I am the person who feels guilty because I think I could be a much better person if I didn’t have to always deal with society hating me.

I am the man who stopped attending church, not because I don't believe, but because they closed their doors to my kind.

I am the person who has to hide what this world needs most, love.

Repost this if you believe homophobia is wrong.

Monday, August 8, 2005

news this week

tons and none.

am starting a business with the help of my dad. based on his table tent business, sue and i are calling the business "r&r restaurant services," rain and roses (me being rain, she being roses). sorta appropriate, esp since it rained on our wedding in a the rose garden.

anyway, i've made the first sale in the business, and will be delivering their first stuff likely wednesday.

bad things: my work for abby has been sub-par. she's been extraordinarily kind to me in offering me work and i've been too crazy over the last week or so to deal with it. she's complained about it, which is fair.

other bad things: grades look poor for the second summer term. i thought i was doing well, but i blew the second business law exam, and the only criminal justice exam (72 and 76, respectively). with my ... crap ... with sue over the past couple weeks, i've missed a lot of the business law class, and even when i wasn't mind-blown because of sue i was too sleepy because of working third shift. apparently, as good as i thought my paper for the criminal justice class was, i fucked it up because i was supposed to do two articles at once, not just one, and i don't have time to fix it. it took me two weeks to write what i had.

other bad things: sue and i discussed it at some length last night and settled on what our priorities are, and at least for the fall semester, school has to go. even if i cut way back on doing table tents, there isn't enough of me to go around, so ... school is history, at least for the fall semester.

i'm really unhappy about that, but it's what we need to do for now. the financial security of our family depends on it.

i started the job. it's not bad. but i had to cancel my foot surgery. i'm unbelievably unhappy about that.

Friday, August 5, 2005

comments (again)

i forget to fix the comments and archives every time i move the site from one host to another. but cecily has kindly reminded me, and so now it's fixed.

note to self: don't forget to fix .htaccess.

Wednesday, August 3, 2005


for some reason i remember writing this post once, but what the hell.

i got a job here in their network operations center, doing technical support for their customers.

it's not bad.

and it's not phone support. :)